Thinking about Relations
Everything has a relation with many. Human beings are no exceptions. We have relations not only with our parents and siblings, but many many others too. For instance, we develop relationships of friendships, a relation with our environment; institutions (whether educational or otherwise); goods that we get from the market; investments and last but not the least the relation with one's own body, one's own mind. Each relation has a quality, which may depend on its quantity. Often the blood relations are said to be longer lasting and of better quality, because they are much fewer, same may hold true with our dwelling. Relations with consumer goods are fragile and short-lived, because they are many more.
I am thinking of now: What determines the quality of any relation? Why are some relations very fragile, while others strong? Is there a common tread of understanding for all?
I think there could be one. The determining factor can be the character between the relatives. Everything and everyone has a character, If the character is dominated by use and throw, then the relation is understandably fragile. One is always driven by the desire for novelty and dissatisfaction with the present. Our aspirations also affect our relations, particularly in case of love relation. Though very often, people have few love relation, but in the present media driven society one is exposed to many other desirable attributes, that one is born with to like or dislike.
Can a relation be permanent ever of the same quality?
I think, relations are always dynamic, they change because every thing changes with time. The life time and its sustainability depends on many factors, which are often unforeseen and unpredictable.
Still I think that I am designed for longer relations. I seldom discard the consumer goods that I acquire, because I acquire them on the basis of an understanding, not a advertisement driven fad. I have had very long lasting relations with human beings also, that are other than genetic. I think that may be the secret of happiness.
Rakesh Mohan Hallen